musings of a city girl

a look into the mind and heart of Janet as she struggles to shine amidst the clamor and concrete in an impersonal city.

Tuesday, March 06, 2007

Passive aggressive??

I was thinking tonight about how I deal with situations/people sometimes. Although I can be quite blunt and direct at times, other times I find I'd rather confront issues by avoiding them all together. So, I looked up passive aggressiveness on Wikipedia. Although I don't think I have the personality disorder, some of the traits I definitely do display at times. But I don't feel so bad, I can think of several people I know that also fit the description!

Common signs of passive-aggressive personality disorder

There are certain behaviors that help identify passive-aggressive behavior.

  • Ambiguity
  • Avoiding responsibility by claiming forgetfulness
  • Blaming others
  • Chronic lateness and forgetfulness
  • Complaining
  • Does not express hostility or anger openly
  • Fear of authority
  • Fear of competition
  • Fear of dependency
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Fosters chaos
  • Intentional inefficiency
  • Making excuses and lying
  • Obstructionism
  • Procrastination
  • Resentment
  • Resists suggestions from others
  • Sarcasm
  • Sullenness

A passive-aggressive may not have all of these behaviours, and may have other non-passive-aggressive traits.